What do horse training, parenting, business and relationships have in common?

One of my many passions in life is working and training horses. I am not into competition, showing or endurance. I am a basic rider who enjoys nature and wide open trails. I enjoy training horses, mainly for pleasure use and my own personal enjoyment. I am currently working with a few Peruvian horses, and while doing so this past weekend I was reflecting on how my training is aligned with the law of attraction principles, as well as how I raised my kids, built my businesses and created a great relationship with my husband.

Stay with me a few minutes here, and allow me to explain this analogy.

When I begin with a new horse, I take time to assess the physical and mental mind-set of this beautiful animal. I need to determine if this a young horse with little or no training, or one that has been mishandled and traumatized by something that has established reactionary beliefs & fear. In other words, what learned beliefs has this horse established through its experiences. Horses have the flight not fight instinct, they run from fear rather than face it like a cougar. This can be dangerous if you are the one on their back when something spooks them. Beginning with the basics sets the standard for our lessons and my safety. The horse and I build a relationship based on trust. Working together we gain a perspective of how, what and why, certain scary events set off certain panic responses. This process is called “sacking out”. As the trainer I will use blankets, plastic bags, noise, quick actions that would spook an untrained horse. Through this training I reassure the horse that despite any activity or unforeseen surprise nothing will happen if we stay calm, focused, and trust in one another. Taking a slow, steady, reassuring approach in training not only gain the animals’ trust, but I allow him to enjoy the experience. I learn to read the body language of the horse, as I am sure the horse intuitively reads mine. Not until we have spent enough repetitive hours on building this foundation of trust will I take him out on the open trails where anything could happen at a moment’s notice. I don’t want to be left on the ground, broken and alone while my horse is high tailing it home.

Yee Haw!!

Whether you are building a relationship with a horse, or a person, trust is critical and should be the foundation for a healthy, continuing relationship. Take time to ask questions of yourself, and of the animal or person which you are getting to know. Gain insight into how, what and why this animal or person responds to circumstances. Discover the learned beliefs that established their behavior. Get to know, understand and comfortably relate to another living being is such a joyful experience when you feel aligned. and you understand each other. When you feel in sync, you know the law of attraction is flowing in the right direction for you to be aligned with what is “right” for you. Dating, courting, social marketing, the process of getting to know one another, is how we determine similarities, challenges, and whether or not the relationship is worth continuing. Not everyone has the same core values as you and that’s ok. You are unique, you have value, and as long as you stay true to yourself you will attract like-minded friends.

If you are looking to attract a lifetime partner, take the time to know one another, discuss your opinions and expectations and explain how or why you feel the way you do. Allow yourself to go deep within your emotional guidance system to discover where or why you believe the story you tell. Be honest with yourself and with others. When you are honest you attract trust. Through healthy conversation and open communication you gain clarity and develop understanding of why you feel the way you do. If you have experienced disappointment, deceit, or dishonesty your limiting beliefs may hold you in the resistance of believing in happiness, trust and truth. Make a conscious choice as to what you desire to hold onto, and what you agree to release. “Ask, and It Is Given” by Jerry and Esther Hicks with Abraham explain the law of attraction processes. Your life is to be lived in joy, you design and create everything that you experience. Through deliberate creation you have the choice as to how you desire to experience all that you have. By applying focus on what you desire to create, trusting in the process, and letting go, the life you attract is yours to enjoy.

If you are a parent, you have given life to your child, but you do not own that child. Each spirit of every person is unique. Teach your child good, strong effective communication skills without criticism or condemnation. Allow them to express their belief’s and explain why they feel the way the do. Guide them and support them by acknowledging what they perceive as truth. If their belief is perceived through negative emotion, allow them healthy alternatives to make deliberate choices in discovering a more positive approach to any situation. Teach your child to think, reason, and understand the consequences of the actions they choose to take. Fear does not instill knowledge. Happiness, love, all positive beliefs should be our reasons for making the choices we make in life. Figure out a way to have your child strive for a better, more focused way of dealing with problems. Allow them positive solutions to solve their problems.

If you are building a business for longevity, you will want to stay aligned with your own values. By being honest with yourself, taking the process of building your business with clear focus and vision you will attract the right clients and customers that you need. Have trust in yourself first and foremost. Stay calm, confident and be consistent. Like training the horse, as you build the relationship the rest will flow.

I love and trust my horses. They are all individual spirits with big hearts. Like each and every soul born into this world, they are pure of thought until such time as their experience teaches them otherwise. I don’t choose discipline or fear to train. I deliberately choose positive re-enforcement and trust to gain their respect. For some it is a long process as per their individual experiences. For some the trust comes easily. I take the time necessary to feel confident that we will be safe, as safe can be. Together we build a solid relationship that allows us to enjoy nature at its’ best. When I am on the trail, trusting my horse and he trusting me, the event is one of freedom. We commune with nature and become one in the universe. I feel at peace, loved and relaxed. This keeps me balanced and re-energizes my body, mind and soul so that I may remain focused with my purpose.

How do you stay aligned with your purpose? When do you take the necessary time to feel in touch with your spirit and listen to your intuition? What will it take and what are you willing to change to allow yourself to live in purpose, with purpose and on purpose?